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  1. Thanks for this informational post. I don’t have direct experience with it. I sm still in my 20, but my parents are in their late 50’s so I will definitely use your advice when the time arrives. Of my parents, only my father is driving and so far there are no problems. I have a question, though. He is 56. Is there a specific age that determines when you should consider stop driving or is it s personal feeling or if some of the “symptomps” that you described appear?

    • Do you drive Delyana? ‘Cause if you do and you love it with all the conveniences it brings, it will be easier for you to understand the position of your Dad when the time comes. Though I’d say, with 56, it is pretty far yet.
      Most countries do not have an age related limits for driving. In many though, the licence automatically expires when the owner reaches 60-65 years. It needs to be extended and in some countries an eye, and hearing test or even a test of cognitive abilities would be required to do so.

  2. This was a very enlightening post. I’ve never really thought about how dangerous it is for seniors to be driving. Sometimes my parents worry about my grandparents driving because they’re not as alert as they used to be. I worry as well, but as you said, at one point they need to let go. And that’s not easy at all. Especially for older people, they don’t want to give up their independence or admit they need help! This was a great article. Thanks for sharing!

  3. Hi Kerryanne,

    Thanks for writing this article.

    It’s hard to tell seniors they can’t drive any more; they’re slowly losing their independence.

    But it has to be done sometimes.

    We had to take my grandfathers’ license away several years ago because he almost hit a pedestrian.

    Not an easy task.

    But you have some good advice here on how to determine when is the right time to pull the plug, and why.

    Thanks once again, and God Bless.

    • No, not easy at all, as, as much you love them, you are sick with worry how the next driving trip will end. I’ve been through that task myself already, so I thought my experience and a few tips might help someone with the same ahead.
      Thank you for sharing yours.

  4. It’s 20 years ago but I still remember vividly the time I asked my father to stop driving. He had Alzheimer’s, which was clear to everybody, except him and my mother. And he thought he was a good driver, like your father in law. So both my brother and I talked with him about it several times, realizing that we would take away not only his freedom, but my mother’s as well.
    At some point he found out that his driver’s license had already expired for 2 months. I will never know whether he was too law abiding or too afraid to have to do the test again (which he would have to with an expired license in Holland), but that was the moment he gave the car keys to my brother.
    It’s like you said, such a difficult phase, for everybody.

    • I can only imagine how stressful times those were for all parties-first you know they could be in danger whenever they drive, but on the other hand, you see how you deprive them of their independence. One has really have to use a sense of fine tuning when deciding when’s the time arrived.
      Lucky you were with that licence expired. We had long-long negotiations with my father in low until he realised we’ll all be there for him when he needs us, and finally gave up the keys.

  5. It must be very difficult to give up driving and the independence it allows but safety comes first. This is a very difficult topic and I think you have done a fantastic job at covering it.

  6. Great eye opening situations to think about. I know its hard for people when they start aging to give up their independence. Hopefully everyone stays safe.
    Thanks for sharing!

    • Unfortunately, there are rarely efficient ways for achieving a win-win situation here, but we need to do our best to come as closely, as we can.
      Thanks for your comment!

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