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  1. I think that people can often be rude when they are not understanding how certain situations make others feel. It must be terribly disturbing to realize that you can’t hear as well as you used to and see how your friends and family react when you don’t hear what they tell you. The impatient wave is extremely rude and it would never occur to me to do that. I can also understand that the overly sympathetic treatment may come over as patronizing. I see that sometimes with nurses who treat patients like children, and I always wonder how that makes the patient feel.
    It is always hard to understand what someone else is going through when we have not experienced the same … That does not excuse rudeness, though.
    Very interesting article, and I liked the advice given at the end of it.

    • Thank you very much for your comment Christine. Rudeness is something that everyone should eradicate from ones own behaviour, but, unfortunately, I have to agree with you. There is so much of it in people, at every level and any situation. I’ve seen too often the impatient wave and always wished the person doing it could be, just for a moment, in the other one’s shoes. Perhaps than they could understand what they are doing.
      As for the advice, I’m so glad you liked it.
      All the best
      Kerryanne

  2. My grandmother changed where hear hearing began to go. She was more nervous and angry. Getting hearing aids was a brilliant option for her and made a huge difference.

  3. Thank you so much for this detailed information. It’s distressing when one can no longer hear properly, which is the situation I find myself in now. I think I need to take this bull by the horns and get myself to a specialist!

  4. Losing your hearing can be devastating at any age. I did some work in the sound industry and my hearing is worst than most peoples. I am not looking forward to having a hearing aid but know that the time will come for me.

    • Sorry to hear that Catherine. Unfortunately, working in a loud sound environment can definitely damage your hearing if you are not properly protected 🙁 But, you seem very young, so, as science and techology are progressing, in a couple of decades some different devices might become available.
      All the best to your hearing 🙂

  5. Sasha

    Great article, Kerryanne! My dad has selective hearing and because of his diabetes, it has made his hearing even worse. Your article is a wonderful reminder of how people with low hearing feel and how those around them must be kind and sympathetic when trying to talk to them. It is super frustrating to repeat ourselves but since he is my father, I am willing to be patient. But we must remember to be as patient with those people who have hearing issues and who are not part of our immediate family. Thank you so much for this awesome post!

    • Thank you Sasha! Exactly-frustrating! But, even more frustrating for the person asking you to repeat yourself. Plus, we all might get there at some point of our older life, and we might want others to be patient with us! People often forget to be nice, but not you, I see. Well done Sasha! All the best to your father and you!

  6. I have tinnitus for as long as I remember. It is getting worse now that I am aging. And probably has no obvious cause. And it does affect my hearing of course.
    Although I must not think of a hearing aid, not at the moment. The thought of something in my ears make me itch already. 🙂
    Anyway, good article about hearing loss. What I like about your articles is, that they can be read from the view point of ‘the infected’, me in this case. Or from the view point of a caretaker. Great!

    • Thank you Hannie, my texts are coming from my personal experience combined with some research, as my work is closely related to seniors and their problems.
      I can understand your aversion to the hearing aid; it is quite often the reason why some people, though they have one, do not use it often or even at all. As you have it for a very long time, I suppose there is no simple cause of your tinnitus that can be removed or treated. Have you checked your hearing, as well? Tinnitus only rarely affects the hearing itself. I hope you have found ways to make peace with it, as it would not significantly lessen even with a hearing aid. It would amplify other sounds, though, that might make tinnitus less noticeable. Anyway, thanks for sharing your thoughts and good luck with those sounds! 🙂

  7. Melissa Jiggetts

    Thank you for the very informative post! Loss of any kind can be very stressful to the party or parties involved. I like your tips, especially about being patient. Imagine how difficult it must be for the person going through this, we must always try to be patient, sympathetic, and empathetic towards the person and help them. I am epileptic and when people don’t try to understand my situation and are not patient with my memory issues it is very discouraging. Thanks for the great post.

    All the best,
    Melissa

    • Thank you for sharing your thoughts and your disorder also, Melissa. I am familiar with epilepsy (especially with the refractory type) and I know it’s often not easy on you! Even without the surroundings.
      Indeed, people sometimes may be very senseless and not understanding. If only we all would take a moment and try to imagine ourselves in the shoes of the other person…but, I feel, sadly not everyone is either capable or willing to do that.
      All the very best to you!

  8. I can’t imagine how scary it must be waking up to sudden hearing loss, I never knew it could happen like that! I would definitely have a melt down of note.

    My mother has hearing loss which started slowly and has gotten progressively worse over the years. She has a hearing aid now which helps.

    She gets very frustrated when people mumble while talking because then she can’t pick up what is being said and very often when she asks that person to speak clearly because she struggles to gear they then shout which does not help her hear properly. She also said people treat her like she is stupid when she is partly deaf.

    I’ve noticed that I’m starting to have to ask people to repeat themselves more often so I suspect I’m heading the same way as my mom.

    • Well, it certainly is a shocking revelation. I’ve read a story of a woman who said it was as tough as suddenly loosing a limb.
      I can quite imagine how hard is for your Mom to deal with the ignorance of people trying to shout, thinking they are helping. Shouting distorts the speech even more. It often takes a lot of explaining first, which I’m sure she gets tired of. If you are around, you might help with those.
      Quite possible you really are heading that way, as, while hearing loss is usually not explicitly treated as hereditary, it is proved to run in families.
      Perhaps you could have your hearing checked and kept under controll, if possible.
      Thank you for coming and sharing your experience.
      All the best!

  9. Great article
    I didnt hear that seniors could have hearing losses where they could not phone rings and door bells.
    I think a hearing aid is key as this will be vital for experiencing everyday life normally.

    • Thank you for popping in, Thabo. Unfortunatelly, the hearing loss can raise to such levels when some other signals are needed to draw a persons attention. A hearing aid is a good device, but it is tiresome to wear it, let’s say even at night. Also, there are people who are irritated by something in their ears. In those cases other solutions should be considered.

  10. Thank you so much for sharing this eye-opening post. It helps me understand what my father is going through.
    I feel bad that we often get annoyed when he asks us to repeat our sentences or if he is slow in catching up with our conversations especially when we already move on from that topic. He is 64 years old and I didn’t think of the effects of hearing loss till now, especially to his mental health.
    I really appreciate this post. I will follow your tips and look at hearing aids for my father.

    • Thank you so much Ferra, I already feel like it was well worth to write it, if I could help even one person to actually improve the life with hearing impairment.
      Be careful, though, with the choice of hearing aids. I’d absolutely suggest you visit a specialist with your father first.
      Good luck to you both with it.

  11. “Very often, it will be denied, though, for a long time.” OMGoodness Yes. My grandparents are going through this now. My grandmother convinced my grandfather he needed them years ago but refuses to get her own. Talking to them on the phone has become an adventure. It is hard to be patient but I know they are frustrated so I just try and go along with wherever the conversation goes. They are wonderful people and I hate that they struggle. Thank you for the section on sympathy. It was a great reminder to be patient!

    • One of the toughest persons to confess something to are usually ourselves. It is very hard to accept any new limitations in our lives and hearing is no exception to that. I like the adventure description-it perfectly reflects the reality. It really is difficult to be understood and answered to the question you ask, not something else.
      Telephones for people with hearing impairments are available today. Have you thought maybe of that possibility?
      Anyway, thank you for reading my post so carefully and for sharing your experience. All the best

  12. Hi there,

    Wow, hearing loss doesn’t sound like a pleasant experience, and I’m already someone who wouldn’t have great hearing. It’s reassuring to know that hearing aids are a good solution to overcome this. I would be lost without it. Although, I do engage in selective hearing every now and then hehe.

    • Hahah, you made my day Sharon! Selective hearing is a state of mind, I’d say, but, I agree, there are times when it can’t be avoided!
      Now, more seriously-hearing aids are a salvation for many, but, they are not perfect yet. The person using it has to learn how to use it, as they certainly can’t provide the same hearing as the natural one. So, take care of your hearing, keep an eye on any changes and seek help right away if needed, before it’s late.
      All the best Sharon and thank you again for making me laugh!

  13. Thank you for this article. I relate with this article as my grandparents have lost their hearing and it is harder and harder to communicate with them.

    As you mentioned, remaining respectful, understanding and patient is the best thing you could do for them.

    Kind regards,
    Yoana

    • My pleasure Yoana. You can go a long way buy supporting your grandparents in this condition. With enough patience, you might even help them seek help, which is available to a certain degree and it might change their life for a little better one.
      Thank you for being here, all the best to you and your grandparents.

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